Wednesday, April 8, 2015

Distance is just a test


Just a short video of a few pictures of Dondre and I. See, before getting into this relationship I always told myself to never go through with a long-distance. I knew that as I got older that I was going to have to go away for college so that I can continue my basketball career. So, with that being said a long-distance at the time was just too much for me to think about and besides who wanted to be in a long distance relationship? Well, as I grew up I realized that long-distance isn't that bad. Like I previously stated, the relationship revolves around the partners wishes. If the partners have a real connection and real love for one another then the distance shouldn't stop them. 


Jealous of those who see you every day.


This relates to my relationship so much because we both complain to each other about how much we wish we could see each other. Sometimes he'd text me and tell me he doesn't like my basketball team because they get to see my face every day, and I tell him the same thing about his athletic teams. I really love this picture because it holds such a big meaning behind it and expresses the exact emotions I feel.

Some may say that Long-Distance dating relationships wouldn't work. If you were to sit down with a few teenagers and asked them which relationship was more likely to fail, Long-distance or close-proximity, many of those teenagers would choose the long-distance with no questions asked. Although, statistics prove that many of the long-distance relationships actually seem to last just as long as a close-proximity relationship or even longer. I also found research on how many of the relationship partners of long-distance seem to value and share more emotions with one another when the distance is so far away. In other words, even though they are being separated from one another because of distance, the partners feel a more closeness and they value their relationship a bunch more. I agreed with this information because not only do I believe that my long-distance relationship will work, I make it work because I don't want the distance to separate us from one another emotionally. Even when I am 90 miles away from Dondre, I still feel a certain closeness with him when we talk to each other via text messages, FaceTime, phone calls, etc.
This is a screenshot of a tweet I posted on Twitter when Dondre fell asleep on me and a way to get him back was to send him a bunch of cute little messages so that he would wake up and keep talking to me. It didn't work :( , but I knew what I sent him would make him smile in the morning when he awoke for class the next day. It worked :)
This is a picture of me and my boyfriend, Dondre. Every time I hang out with him I force him to take pictures with me because I tell him that these pictures will be our own little memories. Also, with this being a long distance relationship, when I am home in Sacramento, I like to go back and view all of our pictures and when we don't have any new ones I get a bit upset and sad. Even though this is a challenging relationship, I know that it'll only make it stronger and help us better one another.

Monday, April 6, 2015

I love this photo because not only does it define a relationship that is long-distance but it describes how love operates. Love is not only a bond between two partners but it is something that is built up due to happiness and passion one human being has for another human being. Love can operate in all types of ways, such as : feeling an emptiness being away from the partner, a newborn baby or child, love between a child and a parent, or simply in this case love between two partners that are not in the same geographical area. Sometimes love creeps up on you and you will never understand how but you will know when love hits you, trust me.

I Love my Long-Distance Relationship :)


According to this photo of my MCM (Man Crush Monday), I am clearly stating that even though we are very geographically distant from one another, the love that I have for my boyfriend is endless. I know where my heart is and I know that he is the only one who I want my heart to belong to. Yes, don't get me wrong, I hate the distance we have but if it's going to make our relationship stronger then I have no doubt in my mind that this will work. If you are dealing with a long-distance relationship and are seeking for a more confident feel for it, then reading this blog will do you justice. :)

Long-distance Statistical Data

According to the article Relationship Quality, Commitment, and Stability in Long-Distance Relationships written by four authors: Gretchen Kelmer, Galena K. Rhoades, Scott Stanley, and Howard J. Markman, provides information about long-distance relationships in a relatively good note and also in a bad note. Long-distance relationships don't always work and isn't a guaranteed happiness, but it also depends on the partners and how hard they are willing to make the relationship work. I totally agree with this statement, not only because I am dealing with a long-distance relationship myself, but because distance has it's own little definition according to many people. Distance to some could mean that something that was once shared is no longer there, and to many others, distance is nothing but a couple of miles. I stand to the side with those who believe distance is nothing but a bunch of numbers expressing how long something is. When dealing with long-distance, the numbers don't necessarily mean anything but your love for your partner traveling aside with you. According to the article, distance is generally perceived as a challenge to romantic relationships, and there is a commonly held popular belief that long-distance dating relationships are difficult and likely to fail. To some this may be true, but to many others this would be false. I believe that it's not the distance that separates the two partners, but the partners who give up on one another and are afraid to admit it and blame the distance for separating them. This article has many statistical data of how many people may perceive long-distance as a non-healthy relationship, but after doing research about it being not healthy came to be inaccurate. My long-distance relationship is very much healthy and loving. Even though we do have our little disagreements but what relationships doesn't? I would hope that healthy relationships have arguments, otherwise, I would see the relationship as being unhealthy, but that's just me. This article helped me realize the basis of long-distance relationships and close proximity relationships. I tend to agree with the fact that long-distance relationships value the partners company and value the relationship a lot more than close proximity partners. I believe this because my relationship with my boyfriend generally make this statement to be true. We both value each other a lot more because of the distance we have with one another and when we are able to see each other after a week or two, we value the presence of each other a lot more. Even when we are in an argument, we get over it very quickly because we both know that the visit very is limited and that we may not be able to see each other for another two weeks. So, even when we are angry with each other we still value our time together a lot more than most relationship partners would.